THE NEED FOR DIALOGUE

THE NEED FOR DIALOGUE

Holding on to grudges and past hurts don't help anyone. We have been placed on Earth for good reason, to learn and grow. Not academic subjects, but to learn, compassion, forgiveness, kindness, humility, to be able and willing to put ourselves in the shoes of another. We are all very different and it would be a very sad and dull world if we were all the same, we all think differently and that's OK. If you look back to all the great wars and conflicts in the world and how they were solved, it wasn't through bombing one another but it was through the coming together and talking and communicating with one another. Not all of us will agree with the views of one another and that is allowed. We are lucky to live in the free world and lucky to have the freedom of speech, that does not mean we should abuse it.

NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CRITICISE ANOTHER UNLESS YOU HAVE WALKED A MILE IN ANOTHER'S SHOES

What that statement means is that how could anyone possibly know every circumstance of another's life, their hopes, views, and aspirations unless they actually were that person.

All too easily conflicts escalate and get out of hand what was something infantile, minor or could have been dealt with by sensible communication blows up into a full-scale battle, this is often fueled and fanned by drama mongers who get a high and delight at watching others fight. It happens in real life, wars have begun in this way and it happens on here on the Internet.

What I am saying here is to stop and think before fires are fanned and put everything into perspective treat others with respect and allow others their opinions and communicate. Put yourself into another's shoes.

Being a Reiki master I live by these principals and I think it would help others if they did the same. When I initiate others into Reiki they must promise to abide by these rules, its part of our way of life.

These are:

* Just for today don’t get angry 
* Just for today don’t worry
* Just for today be grateful
* Just for today work hard
* Just for today be kind to others
The idea behind you tell yourself this is just for today, of course when tomorrow comes you do the same all over again. But trust me it works and no conflict is ever solved without communication
MAPB ©

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ASTROLOGY ALERT!

I'm giving plenty of warning as regards Mercury Retrograde, so you can prepare in advance. It's due to go into retrograde on June 26 2013 and won't move forward again until July 20 2013.

Mercury Retrograde Dates

Mer R Jun 26 2013  05:08  23°Cn06' R  Mer D Jul  20 2013  10:23  13°Cn22' D   Mer R Oct  21 2013  02:29  18°Sc23' R  Mer D Nov 10 2013  13:12  02°Sc30' D   Mer R Feb  6  2014  13:44  03°Pi20' R  Mer D Feb 28 2014  06:01  18°Aq10' D Mer R Jun  7  2014  03:57  03°Cn10' R  Mer D Ju l  1  2014  04:51  24°Ge23' D   Mer R Oct  4  2014  09:03  02°Sc18' R  Mer D Oct 25 2014  11:17  16°Li46' D   Mer R Jan 21 2015  07:55  17°Aq04' R  Mer D Feb 11 2015  06:58  01°Aq19' D   Mer R May 18 2015  17:50  13°Ge08' R  Mer D Jun 11 2015  14:34  04°Ge34' D   Mer R Sep 17 2015  10:10  15°Li55' R  Mer D Oct  9   2015  06:58  00°Li55' D Mer R Jan  5  2016  05:06  01°Aq01' R  Mer D Jan 25 2016  13:50  14°Cp55' D Mer R Apr  28 2016  09:20  23°Ta36' R  Mer D May 22 2016  05:20  14°Ta21' D Mer R Aug 30 2016  05:04  29°Vi04' R  Mer D Sep 21 2016  21:31  14°Vi51' D Mer R Dec 19 2016  02:56  15°Cp07' R  Mer D Jan  8  2017  01:43  28°Sg52' D Mer R Apr  9 2017  15:15  04°Ta50' R  Mer D May 3 2017  08:33  24°Ar16' D Mer R Aug 12 2017  17:01  11°Vi38' R  Mer D Sep  5 2017   03:30  28°Le26' D Mer R Dec  2  2017  23:35  29°Sg17' R  Mer D Dec 22 2017  17:51  13°Sg01' D Mer R Mar 22 2018  16:20  16°Ar54' R  Mer D Apr 15 2018   01:21  04°Ar47' D Mer R Jul  25 2018   21:03  23°Le27' R  Mer D Aug 18 2018  20:25  11°Le33' D   Mer R Nov 16 2018  17:34  13°Sg29' R  Mer D Dec  6  2018  13:23  27°Sc17' D   Mer R Mar  5  2019  10:19  29°Pi39' R  Mer D Mar 28 2019  05:59  16°Pi06' D   Mer R Jul  7  2019  15:15  04°Le28' R  Mer D Jul 31 2019  19:58  23°Cn58' D Mer R Oct  31 2019  07:42  27°Sc38' R  Mer D Nov 20 2019  11:12  11°Sc35' D   Mer R Feb 16 2020  16:55  12°Pi53' R  Mer D Mar  9 2020  19:49  28°Aq13' D   Mer R Jun 17 2020  21:00  14°Cn45' R  Mer D Jul  12 2020  00:27  05°Cn30' D   Mer R Oct 13 2020  17:06  11°Sc40' R  Mer D Nov  3 2020  09:50  25°Li54' D   Mer R Jan 30 2021   07:52  26°Aq29' R  Mer D Feb 20 2021  16:53  11°Aq02' D   Mer R May 29 2021  14:35  24°Ge43' R  Mer D Jun  22 2021  14:01  16°Ge08' D   Mer R Sep 26 2021  21:11  25°Li28' R  Mer D Oct  18 2021  07:17  10°Li08' D   Mer R Jan 14 2022  03:42  10°Aq19' R  Mer D Feb  3 2022  20:14  24°Cp23' D Mer R May 10 2022  03:48  04°Ge51' R  Mer D Jun  3  2022   00:01  26°Ta06' D   Mer R Sep 9  2022  19:39  08°Li55' R  Mer D Oct  2  2022  01:08  24°Vi13' D Mer R Dec 29 2022  01:32  24°Cp20' R  Mer D Jan 18 2023  05:13  08°Cp09' D

MERCURY IN RETROGRADE

The planet Mercury, which is only visible just before sunrise or just after sunset travels in a forward direction most of the time. But three or four times a year, if you care to watch carefully, it appears to turn around and go backwards for about three weeks! Now Mercury really isn't going backwards. It's just an optical illusion based on the relative speeds and orbits of the Earth and Mercury around the Sun. For example think of riding in a fast car on an motorway which is passing a slower-moving car. The slower moving car appears to be moving backward, but it isn't really. It's just the relative speed and direction of the two cars gives that illusion, retrograde Mercury is similar to that.

The apparent backward motion of Mercury is called retrograde, and it has been known and studied in western astrology for thousands of years.

In general the effect of Mercury retrograde is annoyance. Little things get snarled up and a low-grade frustration emerges. Anything involving communications, verbal activity, technology, short trips and journeys, primary education, and siblings can be affected. Whilst Mercury retrograde usually is a minor irritant, every now and then a colossal screw-up can take place. 

During the next Mercury retrograde:

• If at all possible, avoid signing legal documents.
• If at all possible, finish projects which involve communication before the retrograde.
• If at all possible, avoid closing big deals during the retrograde
• If at all possible, avoid launching new projects during the retrograde
• If at all possible, avoid scheduling meetings to make a big decision
• Allow extra time when travelling
• Backup your hard drive before the retrograde
• If at all possible, avoid installing new computer software during the retrograde
• Do needed repairs on machinery before the retrograde
• Do not hold an election during the retrograde.

This is not to say Mercury retrograde is always a bad thing. Far from it. It is actually an ideal time to do some other things, like:

• Do the follow-ups on a project already started
• Wrap up or complete a project already started
• Research a new project thoroughly
• Catch up on paperwork
• Hold an information-sharing meeting

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WARNING! IT'S THAT TIME AGAIN WHEN COMMUNICATION BECOMES DIFFICULT (ASTROLOGY MERCURY RETROGRADE)

This time Mercury enters retrograde from Sunday 15th July until Wednesday 8th August.

When Mercury goes into retrograde all communication is affected one way or another, not just between people in relationships, but mail, transport, computers, phones, you name it, things can become difficult, delayed, mail gets lost. So if you have anything that needs signing do it now or delay things until after August 8th. This is generally a busy time for me with clients with relationship problems. if you find yourself in this scenario, DON'T overreact, hang fire and count to ten, the difficulties will pass at least this time it's just around three weeks.

For those who don't understand what Mercury Retrograde is:

An apparent backward motion of the planets is called a "retrograde" motion. It occurs in several stages. At first the planet seems to stand still, then it backs up through the signs, stands still again, and then resumes its forward motion. The amount of time that a planet spends in retrograde motion depends on the planet's orbit, varying from about twenty-two days for nearby Mercury to about 160 days for distant Pluto.

When Mercury is retrograde, it is considered to be a time of problems with interaction, travel and even the simple basic workings of things. It is also thought that the general averse aspects of a retrograde planetary motion carry over into the lives of the people born under them as a part of their lifetime astrological chart.

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OH NO IT'S THAT TIME AGAIN! MERCURY RETROGRADE

ON NO IT'S THAT TIME AGAIN!
(Dates can be found on the right hand side bar of this page)

If you feel everyone and the world has gone mad have a quick look at the calendar to check the dates, its highly likely that mercury is about to or in the throes of going retrograde*** again. 

Communications go haywire, you end up having stupid rows about nothing, you can't think your head goes all wooly, and to crown it all electrical equipment starts doing bizarre things, more so electrical equipment connected to communication, such as computers, radios and TVs. Don't be surprised either if there seems to sudden road works, and bus, train and flight time tables don't run to plan.

For those of you who are either Gemini or Virgo expect to be doubly affected as Mercury is your ruling planet, though all of us are likely to be affected in someway and of course it also depends too on your accendant and moon sign.

This is not a good time to make major decisions in life nor is it a good time to sign a contract and if you can reschedule then do so, this goes for anything connected with communications, so you can imagine, advertising, journalism, publicity.

Now the best thing to do frankly is hibernate! however this is not practical so what can we do? Well turn this negative time into something positive, use it to reflect on the past, not to go and live in the past, but to see what mistakes you have made, what you have learned and how we can make those lessons productive and make improvements. Inncidently it's a good time to have a good tidy and clear out and sort out your wardrobe and cupboards, however put those articles to one side and don't chuck them out straight away but rather in a holding pile, remember no major decisions and see how you feel when Mercury moves forward again, either way you will have discovered things you had forgotten about and perhaps given them a new life.

• First of all any rows, disagreements that happen in this time DON"T take them seriously, blame Mercury not the other person (ok well give them the benefit of the doubt)
• Back up all your important data twice, just to make sure, don't take chances
• Read all the small print carefully and at least three times better still avoid signing anything
• DON'T go on wild shopping trips, you'll regret it later
• DON'T listen to any rumours nor believe in any gossip, chances are it will all be misconstrued just don't go there
• Get together with friends and talk about the past and what you've learned from it and laugh about it
• Finish things, like DIY, etc.
• DON'T make big plans and decisions
• And if all fails there's also the possibility of hibernation though hopefully you won't have to resort to that!
• Remember too 'IT WILL PASS'.

***A planet is described as retrograde when it appears to be moving backwards through the zodiac. According to modern science, this traditional concept arises in the illusory planetary motion created by the orbital rotation of the earth with relation to other planets in our solar system. It's a bit like travelling on the road watching another car beside you: when the other car slows down, or you speed up, it looks as though the other car is moving backwards. Planets are never actually retrograde or stationary, they just seem that way due to this cosmic shadow-play.

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THE NEED FOR DIALOGUE

THE NEED FOR DIALOGUE

Holding on to grudges and past hurts doesn't help anyone. We have been placed on Earth for good reason, to learn and grow. Not academic subjects, but to learn, compassion, forgiveness, kindness, humility, to be able and willing to put ourselves in the shoes of another. We are all very different and it would be a very sad and dull world if we were all the same, we all think differently and that's OK. If you look back to all the great wars and conflicts in the world and how they were solved, it wasn't through bombing one another but it was through the coming together and talking and communicating with one another. Not all of us will agree with the views of one another and that is allowed. We are lucky to live in the free world and lucky to have the freedom of speech, that does not mean we should abuse it.

NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO CRITICISE ANOTHER UNLESS YOU HAVE WALKED A MILE IN ANOTHER'S SHOES

What that statement means is that how could anyone possibly know every circumstance of another's life, their hopes, views and aspirations unless they actually were that person.

All too easily conflicts escalate and get out of hand what was something infantile, minor or could have been dealt with by sensible communication blows up into a full scale battle, this is often fueled and fanned by drama mongers who get a high and delight at watching others fight. It happens in real life, wars have begun in this way and it happens on here on the Internet.

What I am saying here is to stop and think before fires are fanned and put everything into perspective treat others with respect and allow others their opinions and communicate. Put yourself into another's shoes.

Being a Reiki master I live by these principals and I think it would help others if they did they same. When I initiate others into Reiki they must promise to abide by these rules, its part of our way of life.

These are:

* Just for today don’t get angry
* Just for today don’t worry
* Just for today be grateful
* Just for today work hard
* Just for today be kind to others
The idea behind you tell yourself this is just for today, of course when tomorrow comes you do the same all over again. But trust me it works and no conflict is ever solved without communication
MPB ©

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HOW POOR COMMUNICATION LEADS TO DRAMA AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT

Remember this site is dealing with YOU in a holistic way not just concerning your outward appearance. To shine on the outside you have to shine from within and that includes how you think and how you interact with others. In other words COMMUNICATION.

Over years using social network sites I've noticed never a day goes past without some drama somewhere and by and large most of the drama is caused by poor communication. 

There is drama caused by some mischief makers you will get them anywhere and these trouble makers delight in getting their kicks out of upsetting and winding others up. I have noticed they love doing this and then disappearing, these types are best ignored for the more attention you give them even negative attention, is still attention, the more they love it. With them don't play the game and they will get fed up and crawl away.

But I would like to blog about the fore mentioned type of drama, poor communication. When we communicate in person we don't just use words, we use our voice expressing tone, we use body language, we gesticulate and we smile, use our eyes, we laugh.  On social network sites what means of communication do we have available to us? we have words, therein lies the problem. Even when we speak the same language say English, we all have different colloquialisms and expressions but to compound the problem further we can be classified into different types, the way we interpret and understand each other.

Some of you may have heard of Neuro linguistic programing NLP for short, and NLP has many uses, but essentially its about the way our brain assimilates information and acts on it and how we can program our brains to use this information to best effect. NLP is a vast subject. I studied it as part of Health Studies at University and put it into practice in my work as a lecturer and as a counsellor to good effect.

The one aspect I want to mention is how we interpret the written word and the classification of different types of personalities.

There are three main types and some sub types and people can be combination of types but by and large there  generally is a dominate type within each of us e.g.

Visuals, who like to think in pictures and diagrams, who prefer to say take in information via diagrams and illustrations, who use the words I see, picture this and various expressions conveying their  dominate visual skills, when they are thinking for example if trying to spell something, you will see them raise their eyes upwards and to the left as if accessing some part up there in their brain, which is actually what they are doing. They love colour and tend to dress flamboyantly.

Auditory types, who think in words, they respond to hearing and learning through the spoken word are good at receiving instructions and work well on the telephone. When they think, you will see them tilt their heads to one side showing an ear and when they are working or studying say like peace and quiet, noise is a distraction to them. They too will use words to express their auditory skills, can you hear me, listen if you want my advice. They are more conservative in appearance

And the Kinesthetic types, these are the touchy feely ones, when they are thinking and concentrating you will see them looking downwards to their abdomen towards their solar plexus. These are the type of people who like to touch things, whether its stroke fabric when buying things and tend to be  shifting position in an audience however slight as they have to work the information in. They will use words conveying feelings and emotions, who like to show affection and will talk about how they feel and can be very empathetic words like I understand, I really feel for you etc.

So what has all this got to do with drama on social network sites, well it is  just showing we take in and assimilate information differently, and we are apt to misconstrue information differently as we do not have rapport with the persons we are trying to communicate with. Its nobody's fault. We can get over this in person as we use or voice and our body language in person so we have more ways to take in understanding, but on here we are limited to just words. If you also bear in mind many of the people we communicate with come from different cultures and English is not their first language you compound the problem further if you do not take all this into consideration.

So want can we do, well by taking time to read carefully what is written and not jump to first conclusions, different cultures will use the same words but with different meanings and look at their use of words, do you think they are visuals if they use the words I see a lot, or are they very emotionally based by using touchy feely words etc.

When you can ascertain and gage what type some one is you can talk the same language as them and gain rapport e.g. if some one is a visual type use the same type of words and expressions mirror them and try and gain understanding and thus rapport. By doing this and just being aware not everyone thinks the same way as you and just because they don't it doesn't make them wrong and you right. Just take a little time to understand and learn to communicate with one another by doing that you can ease the drama that is all to prevalent on social network sites

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